When Everyone Else Seems Happy: Coping With Holiday Comparisons After a Breakup
It’s hard not to compare your situation to everyone else’s.
But I need you to hear this: comparison is pain disguised as perspective.
Here’s how to protect your spirit during a season where everyone seems happy but you:
1. Mute, Don’t Torture Yourself
Mute the couples.
Mute the engagements.
Mute the holiday romance content.
This isn’t jealousy — it’s self-preservation.
2. Remember: Social Media Is a Highlight Reel
People post the best 2% of their lives.
You don’t see the arguments.
You don’t see the insecurities.
You don’t see the heartbreaks that happened behind closed doors.
Don’t compare your healing to someone else’s cropped, curated moment.
3. Focus on What Brings YOU Light
Try:
Walking in nature
Doing a holiday craft
Decorating your space
Listening to a healing playlist
Journaling with a cup of hot cocoa
Pour into what feels good, not what feels painful.
4. Stay Rooted in Reality, Not Fantasy
You’re grieving what you imagined, not what was actually happening.
Be honest about the relationship:
Was it stable?
Was it healthy?
Was it aligned with your future?
Don’t chase the memory — remember the truth.
5. Celebrate Small Wins
You woke up today.
You’re still moving forward.
You’re learning your worth.
You’re setting boundaries.
You’re choosing yourself.
That is worth celebrating more than any matching pajama picture.
You’re Not Behind — You’re Becoming
Your story isn’t delayed.
Your love life isn’t ruined.
Your future isn’t canceled.
This season may look different, but different does not mean defeated.
Better is still ahead.
Xx,
LuvBritt
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