*Disclaimer: all names/examples have been slightly altered to protect the innocent and guilty*
I'm sure you're wondering why this red flag is
draped around this cross. Well, don't strain yourself. I'm going to tell you.
In honor of Resurrection Day, Holy Week, Passover and any other special holiday
you recognized last week or none; I thought it was fitting since I'll be discussing my
top five (5) red flags and how to escape them! Or rather how to say yes to
change on a Thursday and come back new Sunday like you never left. See the parallelism there? The point is, I
needed a little supernatural help with this post! Here goes…
5) Too private: there's something to be said
for the gentleman who wants things to be so private and hidden, you feel like
an Easter egg during a hunt. I guess that can be endearing? Who knows?
The details of your relationship should without a doubt be kept between the two
of you; however, other people being aware (i.e. female friends, co-workers,
friends in general, family members, etc.) that you two are dating and have been
for months SHOULDN’T be kept a secret. If this is the case and you want to keep
your man, talk to him. Maybe he'll be ready to go public after a year of dating
[I'm being facetious]. It should be way before that in my opinion. On the other
hand, if you don't want to keep him and you know your worth—kick that sucker to
the curb. I personally want to be appreciated/recognized in public and behind
closed doors. Who really wants to be an
Easter egg? Look what happened to Humpty Dumpty—broken into pieces to never be
put back together again? But guess who can put you back together again?
Exactly.
4) Pays for everything in cash: he’s either
got a wife or doesn't believe in FDIC. Either way, both are bad. Run.
3) Boomerang communicator: we've all met this
person at some point in our lives, the person that throws every conversation back
on you. Nothing is ever their fault. Or better yet, they admit to wrongdoing;
however, still make it your fault in the long run. Beware of this communicator.
They're usually the tricky and especially manipulative ones. Don't worry; you
should pass this test successfully now that I'm bringing it to your attention.
Stay focused on your end goal when chatting with this one. Have your bullet
points available to get your thoughts across and don't back down from your
feelings. They’re yours and are warranted.
2) Never get invited over: if you don't
get invited over within the first 3 months of dating, he's hiding something. A
dead body, a girlfriend, a football team of kids, some other woman’s
paraphernalia that “doesn't” live there anymore or even worse. He's just plain
dirty. All of which are red flags and you might want to reevaluate some things.
My opinion, but hey, everyone has one like a butthole. Just saying.
1) Pathological liar: if all his friends and family say he's a liar, chances
are…he's a liar and there's no way around that unless something divinely
intervenes in this person’s life. For instance, like Jesus dying on the cross
for us. I mean that with pure sincerity.
Listen to the people that know him most, they will show you who he is and may
be trying to save you from unnecessary heartache. Anyone that just offers
a lie pulled from the clouds above with a straight face is dangerous. Stay
aware of the hypocritically ingenuous, you never know when they're genuine.
These few red flags may open your eyes or even
remind you of a past experience. Keep those eyes forever open with strips of
duct tape extending from your eyelids to eyebrows. Always stay “woke” when
dating. People will tell you everything you need to know within the first 5
minutes of a conversation. Just take mental notes and empower yourself to
listen to the blaring red flags being spewed over a fine shot of tequila on a
Taco Tuesday.
Luv,
Britt
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